Recently I wrote about what I’ve learned in Tanner’s 9 and a half months. Here we are, at almost 11 months and I am still trying to figure out how to do certain things. Whether it be finding time to my self, or realizing Faheem needs alone time when he gets home from work etc. I’ve come to realize the main things I really need to learn is patience, how to clean with a stage 5 clinger, and how to breast feed in public.
For the most part, I believe I’m an extremely patient person. I don’t let much get to me. I wish this were true being a mom. I find I lose my patience more than I’d like, but hey, I’m only human. I feel I get frustrated and extremely impatient with her at times where she won’t let me do what I want to do. For example, change her dang diaper! Nope! it’s not diaper changing time to her, it’s how fast can I get up and how many diapers can I grab before mom puts me back down! Or another one is when it’s time for her to take a nap but she has other plans, and the most annoying one is when I’m actually trying to get stuff done around the house but she won’t let me put her down. I know this is a normal thing with all moms, so I’m trying not to beat my self up about it too much. The worst was when I actually yelled at her before because of the whole not letting me change her diaper thing! Of course that made me feel like the worst mother ever! But since that has happened (maybe a few months ago) I think I’ve become a little more patient. One day at a time, am I right?
- Breastfeeding in public
If you guys read my Aquarium post, you know I dislike breastfeeding in public. I have this fear that people’s eyes are automatically going to flock to me while nursing Tanner and stay there as if I’m doing something terribly wrong. No I 100% should not feel like that but unfortunately I can’t help it. I can honestly say I think I’ve only breastfed in public maybe 2-3 times and each time I made sure to be in an area where no one would see my front – only my back. I’ve tried using covers, but neither of us like it. I feel like I can’t see Tanner and she usually just pulled the cover away to expose me anyway. When Tanner would nurse every 2 hours it would be extremely difficult to get out of the house. I would have to get ready to leave, and the very last thing I would do would be nurse her and then rush out the door. I think finally I got fed up with that so I just left the house with out feeding her and nursed her in my car and said oh well, if people stare while I’m nursing her in my car than let them stare. So yea, I have NO PROBLEM nursing her in my car but still can’t nurse her where there are people around. Hopefully when we have another baby that will be my goal for that baby – to not be afraid to breastfeed in public!
I was never a cleaner. I can’t do it for the life of me. I would clean all at once rather than breaking it up and doing something every day. Doing it all at once sometimes took me up to 4 hours! So you could see why I hated it. I think it’s known by now that Tanner is not the best sleeper/napper. At this stage she has severe separation anxiety so it’s not the easiest to put her in the crib for nap time. Usually we are out and she falls asleep in the car or she is sleeping on me for naps. So it gets a little difficult to get stuff done around the house when you have a stage 5 clinger of a daughter! LOL. Recently I’ve been trying to vacuum while wearing her or even just putting her on the floor and letting her watch. I’ll do the dishes while shes eating in her highchair and I’ll do laundry while shes playing with her toys. But as for actually cleaning with cleaning products, I’m afraid to use them around her so I usually wait till Faheem is home or at night when she’s sleeping to do that. So yea, this is something I’ve been struggling with to figure out when and how to get the house clean. I have noticed that if I don’t do things (especially vacuum) first thing in the morning then I won’t do it. So I’m slowly learning how to clean with Tanner as of now!
These are definitely the things I need to figure out, I think of the three, cleaning has been getting easier. I find that I enjoy waking up to a clean house and I’m getting into a routine of doing things every other day rather than once a week! I even vacuumed first thing this morning AND cleaned the floors! (you’re welcome babe haha) What are some tips you other mama’s can give me in regards to these things!? I would love to hear some advice!